Second of all, I was all ready to post a very angry entry about the Things That Bothered Us last night, but lo and behold, our day was spent being bothered by something completely different! So I guess it's a good thing to stop and count to ten before having dramatic outbursts. Or something.
As I mentioned a while ago, we and our sisters decided it could be a nice thing to all get together with Mom and Steve and the Husbands to have Family Home Evening on Monday nights. It didn't happen last week because something came up with Sarah's household, so she and her boy couldn't make it, and she said we could call Celeste and see if we all wanted to do something, but we were being lazy and stuff so we just blew it off. But we realized that if no one made an effort to keep it going, it wouldn't, so this week we decided to call Sarah, since she's kind of the instigator-type-person, and see if we could get this thing going again.
I left a message on her phone, and she called back saying that yes, Family Home Evening was a go. She also informed me that there was no activity planned, so we could just hang out, and maybe play a board game. I had recently spotted our Disney Scene It game and thought how nice it would be to play it (not in relation to FHE), so I thought we might as well bring it and see what happened. We were actually under the impression that it wouldn't get played (or "that it would come and be a pretty decoration while we did something else," as Athena puts it), because the two most competitive people in the group are also the two who seem to want to avoid Disney. But Mom saw it first, before anyone got there, and so we said yeah, we brought it, and it has a party mode so that the DVD just plays the questions and everyone can answer them without competing. Mom said she liked that idea, so when everyone had gathered and we were ready to get started, she made sure to tell everyone that the Twins brought the activity.
We had a very short lesson on how true beauty comes from happiness, and I thought it was an interesting subject and would have liked to talk about it more, but for some reason that didn't happen. So we explained the activity and I didn't really feel like we were getting any kind of reaction, so we just kind of left it until Steve said, "Weren't we going to play your game?" And I was like, "Well, no one seems interested," or something like that but we brought it and put it in the DVD player anyway. And as soon as it came on, we heard Mom say something along the lines of, "Oh, let me get a chair so I can play this too!" She was not referring to Disney Scene It, but to the game of cards that the boys had instigated while the DVD was starting up.
I reacted poorly. It took me off guard, and two thoughts went through my head. One was, "Didn't I just discuss this kind of divided behavior with Steve?" (there was a discussion about how having the family split up and not play with each other at Family Home Evening kind of defeats the purpose) and the other was, "Were they waiting for us to put the DVD in so they could start their game of cards without us noticing?" The second thought was actually not yet formulated fully, but it was still enough to have me groan out loud. And thus we got everyone to play Disney Scene It with us. It wasn't long before we turned it off anyway because no one really seemed to care.
We don't mind if people don't want to do the things we brought to do--we've come to expect it and we can deal with it. But don't make us think you're going to do it and then turn around and ignore us once you've decided it's safe. We're not stupid, and we're not blind or deaf.
Also, one of the things we really can't stand is having people do things just to humor us. I've said before that we don't mind being good sports, and that's true. But the reason we don't mind being good sports is that we hate to make other people be good sports for us. When we want to share something we enjoy, we want everyone else to enjoy it too. If they're not going to enjoy it, there's no point in doing it, and we'll end up feeling worse than if we'd just kept it to ourselves.
This is actually why we keep talking about moving away from Fresno. Staying here makes it harder and harder to believe that other people in the world enjoy doing what we enjoy doing. We don't mind being good sports, but it sure would be nice to find some people to hang out with where we can all have fun and nobody has to be a good sport. And thus we keep quoting to ourselves the famous line of Marona from Phantom Brave, "Itsuka kitto..."
Hmm, I don't think that's much different than it would have been had I typed it earlier. Ah well.
Today I'm thankful for amusing Star Wars videos, making it halfway through checking our Negima script, jeans that aren't low-cut (crack kills), Ritz crackers, and the prospect of getting chocolate-covered pretzels later today.