November 29th, 2009


In the quiet heart

Happy birthday Sarah!!

I don't think she's going to read this, but I thought I'd mention her birthday, since I was actually going to mention it anyway. According to Sarah, we've been invited to the birthday dinner her in-laws insisted on throwing for her, but when Steve called to find out the details, things were kind of "Wha...?" so we're not sure exactly what's going on. But we do know that Mom, who would be the one driving us, is having a super stressful day and we might not be going anyway. Technically, from what I hear, it starts in three minutes, so it's looking like a probably not on the going thing. But that's okay, because Sarah insisted that she didn't want to force anyone to come, and we can just have another birthday dinner for her next week, where she'll get to have the dish she really wanted to eat but didn't want to ask her in-laws for because she knows her husband doesn't (and therefore suspects most of her in-laws don't) like it.

Anyway. Church was awesome again. The third hour had a lot of team-teaching (or turn-teaching, more like), but it was basically about being better. Like in general. A better person. That's something we've been thinking about for a while but been a little clueless on. I'm not sure the lesson really helped much, but it gave us some clues.

And now I'm going to kind of change the subject only not really because it ties in. Lately, I've noticed we (meaning Athena and me) spend a lot of time talking about things people do that annoy us. That's no way to be, so I've been trying to think of a way to change it. There's a verse of a hymn that comes to mind a lot, that goes like this: Who am I to judge another when I walk imperfectly? In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can't see.

I remembered this verse when our Relief Society president came over to tell us we were being a little harsh to people during Relief Society. The incident that spurred her to come over involved me making someone cry, because I made a harsh comment about the way she was trying to convey information. I was informed that that person had had a very rough day, which could have had her flustered and not thinking straight.

For another example, the new teacher I mentioned last week said that one day at work, she was dealing with a coworker who was being really down and negative, and eventually she just blew up at the person, "What's your problem!? Can't you just be happy!?" And some other coworkers pulled her aside and said, "Dude, her dad died last week."

So basically, when people are doing things that bug us, it's possible that they're dealing with much harder problems than whatever little annoyance they might be causing, and we should be aware of that. So I invented a game! When someone does something annoying, we try to come up with a good reason why they can't not do it (kind of like the game Hatsuharu made up for Tohru and Momiji at the haunted house). For example, when the organist was playing the hymns sooooooooo sloooooowly, it's possible that he had been stuck out in the cold, maybe helping orphans, and his fingers were just too stiff to play any faster. (Of course, that's not going to stop us from suggesting that maybe if he played faster he could finally prevail on us to join the ward choir (not that he's ever asked us, but if he does!).)

At any rate, it should help us to be amused instead of annoyed.

Today I'm thankful for getting to pay tithing, the super delicious chocolates we got at tithing settlement (already eaten and sorely missed), fun new games to play, getting rides to and from church despite the person who agreed to do it on Friday suddenly not being able to, and Donald's offer to call us if any stray Siamese kittens wander into his yard again.