November 5th, 2009


What's my motivation?

After reading coastal_spirit's post today about the results of the Maine vote on marriage, we really felt like we needed to say something. We thought about making this a comment, but to be honest, we're a little afraid to, so instead we decided to talk about it on our home turf. We hope that's okay.

I don't think it's a secret that we voted yes on Prop 8 last year, but just in case some of you were unaware, that's the case. Based on the reactions we've read from our friends who are opposed to Prop 8 and Question 1, there's one thing I really want to explain, and that's the fact that not everyone who voted yes on either of those did it out of hatred, fear, or blind devotion to their religion. Athena and I thought long and hard about Prop 8, we did a lot of research, and ultimately, yes, we did vote based on our religion, but not because our religion teaches us to reject and/or hate gay people. Just the opposite--we're taught we need to love everyone. Period.

Here's the thing. We belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and we both believe with all our hearts that it's true. We've gotten so many blessings and seen so many miracles from following the commandments that I think it wouldn't be very smart to dismiss them very readily. In other words, we've learned that if we keep the commandments, our lives are happier. One of the really big commandments in the LDS Church is the law of chastity, which is this: "The sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife." ("The Family: A Proclamation to the World")

I think it's the transitive property? We've learned through experience that keeping the commandments makes life happier, which means if we keep the law of chastity, that will make us happier, too. Now, we haven't had the guts to try breaking the commandments to see the contrast, but we have seen what can happen when people start trying to push the boundaries. Someone we love made some bad decisions and got badly hurt because of them. And it was really hard to see that, because we cared about the person doing it. We didn't hate her for making those decisions, but we wished we could have done something to stop her before she got hurt.

Voting yes on Prop 8 is kind of the same thing. We know that gay couples can be very happy together, but we also believe so strongly that they can be even happier if they bridle their passions and eventually live up to their eternal potential, just like we're trying to do so that we can be even happier, too. (Remember that "I'm a terrible person phase" I mentioned yesterday? We're always trying to be better people.) It's kind of hard to explain, I guess. Voting no would make people happier in the short-term, but we really believe that all of eternity... is a much better length of time to be super ultra happy. Anyway, we're not all voting out of hate, and we just wanted everyone to understand that much.

Today I'm thankful for my testimony of the gospel, having Chex Mix to snack on tonight, food storage (another one of the unusual things our church teaches, which we might need to take advantage of soon), Neo Romance desktop calendars, and Oreo eating his w/d.