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Happy Mother's Day! 
14th-May-2017 02:45 pm
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Oh man, I have so much to talk about today! First off, Happy Daughter of God Day! Or Happy Mother's Day, if you're not religious. And don't tell me, "But I don't believe in mothers," because science has proven that you would not exist if mothers didn't.

Now there are some people who might argue, "Well, yeah, but Mothers' Day just makes a whole bunch of people feel bad!" And they're partially right. There are people whose mothers have passed away, and people who had really, really terrible mothers, and they have every right to not be excited about Mothers' Day. Okay, in all honesty, I'm not exactly over the moon about it, either, in the same way I'm not particularly excited about Arbor Day. Or Flag Day. Oh my gosh, I'm not a flag; I'm such a failure. I don't even have a flag!

...Okay, now I'm getting silly and possibly offensive. I'm very sorry. (Not sorry enough to delete it before you post it?) (Well, it's kinda funny...) (...)

Ahem. Anyway.
Actually we were pretty ecstatic about Mothers' Day this year, because the men in our ward decided to take over the Primary not just for Singing Time and Sharing Time, but for the Sunday School hour as well, so we didn't have to prepare a single thing! ...Except for the songs that the kids and Young Women sang in Sacrament Meeting, but that was just a cute little fun thing. So we got to go to gospel doctrine class and Relief Society, and it was just so nice not having to battle for control of the class.

But we were bad anyway. See, the Relief Society lesson this week was about how awesome women are, and I sort of maybe understand the importance of these lessons, but I always hate them for some reason. Athena suggests it might be like how, for example, if I had taught Sunbeams today, the lesson was about how we have hands. For three- and four-year-olds, it's a good lesson. For grown adults, it's like, "Yes, duh, why are we still going over this?" And that's how we feel about lessons about how awesome women are. We're like, "Yes, duh, why are we still going over this?" I do get that we're all on different levels and some people do need to hear that, but I have a very short attention span for it. (Athena: This is where we are reminded that self-esteem is not one of our many issues.)

So we're having this lesson and the teacher talks about her daughter, who hated Mothers' Day for 20 years because she had yearned for so long to be a mother and she was denied that blessing. And when I decide to be a nice person and try to understand, I do get that when you want something really badly and you can't get it for reasons that are extremely unclear to the point of seeming nonexistent, that can be tough. Like when we see people on Facebook talking about going to Japan. Anyway, the story goes on, and eventually this woman who hated Mothers' Day realized, "I may not be a mother, but I have a mother!" And we were like, "Ya think!?" ...Yeah, I'm feeling really mean today. I'm pretty sure it's not because I feel like a failure for not being a mother.

Anyway, the point I wanted to make about all of it is this: Mothers' Day is not about you. It's about your mother. It's not a day to say, "Yay, I'm a mother and I finally get to be acknowledged for my hard work!" It's a day to say, "Wow, I would not exist in this world as the person I am today if not for my mother. Thank you, Mom." And that's pretty much how I feel about most holidays. People get all stressed out about them because they somehow don't fit into "society's" idea of who they should be, when really most of these holidays were designed by greeting card companies by people who wanted to give thanks for mothers, fathers, significant others, Jesus, Passover, springtime, ancestors, the return of the sun after winter solstice, veterans, the harvest, blessings in general, freedom, etc. If you don't feel thankful for any of those things, feel free to not celebrate the corresponding holiday, and I will not judge you. Unless you start whining about how the holiday makes you feel bad, and then I might have to smack you upside the head. (You can mention it. Just don't whine about it.)


Okay, now I'm done with my own rant, I have nicer things to talk about! Our friend who took us out for our birthday successfully located the crepe truck last night, and so we went to Anaheim Art Crawl. The crepes were adequate. So far in the States, we have yet to find a place that isn't afraid to cook them long enough to hold up in the ice cream cone style that they used in Japan; apparently we have this idea that they're supposed to be floppy. That's fine, I guess, but more importantly, the fillings/toppings options were extremely limited, so that was kind of a bummer. Still, a plain crepe with just sugar can be pretty tasty.

As for the rest of the Art Crawl, it was pretty neat. It seemed like a bunch of local artists/artisans came to peddle their wares. There were painters, seamstresses, photographers, glass workers, woodworkers, all kinds of things. There was more than one booth selling amigurumi, and of course they all made licensed characters that they probably didn't have the rights for... Nevertheless, one of them had some super cute cacti crochet pieces, and since, as far as we know, the cacti weren't licensed, we bought one! And it has a paperclip in the top so it can hold pictures! I should take a picture of it! And then put the picture in the clip, and then take a picture of that and put it in the clip, and then take a picture of that and...

I won't do that. I just thought people might like to see it, and that's where the flow of the story went. On a completely unrelated note, the comic book store located on the same street as the Art Crawl had a photo op thing with people dressed as Star Wars characters (apparently that was the theme for this one, Star Wars), and we thought, "Hey, we haven't been in a comic book store in years! Let's check it out!" And they had almost no manga whatsoever, which was a bummer. They had one Attack on Titan...trading card game or something? And a shelf with Sailor Moon.

We also bought some cookies from Lucky 13 Cookies, because their slogan was "We bake cookies so you don't have to," and I gotta love someone who will bake cookies for me so I don't have to. I'm just not that interested in cooking, okay? Our joshiryoku is pretty low, come to think of it. But they had some sandwich cookies that were peanut butter oatmeal cookies with a honey peanut butter cream, and they were amazing.

We also got our names written in calligraphy! I should take a picture of that, too. See all these things that I should just take pictures of. This is the main reason I consider buying a smartphone. And why I want to get the Pixel, because it has a really good camera. But then I'm like, "Do I really need to spend that much money on a smartphone?"

And that was a lovely evening. I have two more things to talk about, but I think they're brief. First, Disneyland has officially announced "upgrades" for Fantasmic!. When I was lamenting changes before it was from one of those sites that has "sources" but isn't official, so it isn't necessarily technically reliable. But it's turned out to be reliable so far, because changes are definitely being made. So far, Disneyland has only owned up to one (adding an Aladdin scene); maybe they're hedging their bets in case things don't work out with other changes, in which case they'd keep the old? Anyway, the good news is that the blog post that mentioned it said they were keeping the original fanfare and theme song. So now I'm hoping that "theme song" means the actual theme song and not just the music from the fanfare theme that's not the actual fanfare itself. On the other hand, we're getting pretty fed up with the madness, so if they ruin Fantasmic!, that just means we'll have practically nothing to keep us attached to this Disneyland, and we can move on with our lives. (I'm not sure how I feel about this line of thinking, but there it is.)

The other thing is that Loot Crate finally got to us the other day. We'd been ignoring it because, as we keep reminding ourselves, we're actually not too excited about most of the really popular anime, so we'll only sort of care about approximately 98% of the things we get from them. But then an ad came across our Facebook feed that said they were going to have a Noragami item. We didn't even think about it; we just clicked the link and signed up for a box. We'll see if we like the rest of the stuff enough not to cancel the subscription when we get it.

And that's all. Whew, I haven't talked that much on LJ in a long time.

Today I'm thankful for my mom, an exciting(?) Noragami item to look forward to, the super awesome shark toy I got as part of a souvenir from Gaston and Alice's trip to Europe, getting to go to Art Crawl, and also having time to play KamiAso last night.
Comments 
15th-May-2017 12:36 am (UTC)
I love your high self-esteem and your confidence and contentment in who you are (and lack of concern over who you are not)!! It's a healthy and good way to be :) Thanks for sharing your perspective and appreciation of mothers, and happy Daughter of God Day to you too!

I'm glad you finally tracked down the crêpe truck! Sorry they were only adequate. (such a disappointing word, adequate...) In defense of non-conical crêpes, I believe the folded style on a plate is more typical in France and Europe. But lack of fillings/toppings is unfortunate! That's the great joy of crêpes, all the cool things you can put inside 'em!

The comic shop sounds disappointing too. It sounds like the place I first chanced upon Sailor Moon floppy comics tucked into shelves of superheroes... (there was pokemon stuff too, which was the reason we were there at all, for my brothers' card collections)—it's still open and I sometimes wonder if it eventually got with the times or stayed stuck in its own world. The shop I go to these days has bright lights and a full front/back shelving unit of manga and a lovely all-ages section and a wide variety of comics and graphic novels. I mostly stick to the manga and feel bad for not knowing more about the world of other comics that are out there, but the inviting atmosphere is great!

Yes, you should share pictures of the cool things you got!! Lately I've been leaving my camera's usb cord plugged into the computer so that it's not as intimidating to take pictures and upload them... it seems to help. (also posting stuff on facebook feels easier than posting stuff on photobucket or wherever...)

I hope the Noragami item is so super cool!!!
15th-May-2017 01:53 am (UTC)
Aww, thanks! We're glad you liked it!

Yeah, but on the bright side, adequate does still technically mean adequate. They were pretty tasty, just not as exciting as the rich chocolate crepes we had outside Tokyo Disneyland. That's a good point about how they do crepes in France and Europe; just another example of how Japan takes everything and improves it. XD

Yup, this comic shop had a bit of Pokemon merchandise, too! It did have some My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic comics, which is sort of a point in its favor, too. A welcoming comic shop that also includes manga does sound like a magical place. Maybe we'll find ourselves at Fullerton Station sometime with lots of time before having to catch a train, and then we can check out the comic shop there. No need to feel bad about not knowing the non-Japanese comics; if you ever see one that strikes your fancy, definitely check it out, but there are just too many comics in the world for everyone to know everything about everything. These days, comic books are like kabuki; they started out as a fun little diversion for the kids, but now they have so much history behind them that it's impossible to know where to begin, and really hard to get into it without a solid foundation.

Leaving the USB cord plugged in sounds like a good help. Unfortunately, my best camera right now is my iPad, and moving pictures from there to the computer for LJ posting is a pain. On the other hand, if I use the Facebook app, it's a snap! ...So I really should just do that, but when I'm not in the moment of, "Hey, look at this cool thing I just bought," it seems like I missed the timing, or the motivation goes away. That's why a smartphone seems like the best option, because it's supposed to always be on and with me anyway.

Which is not to say that I'm not going to post pictures, just that my current thought is, "Eh, I'll get to it eventually."

We hope the Noragami item is so super cool, too! (It's not too late to sign up and get that box if you're at all interested.)
15th-May-2017 02:28 am (UTC)
Re: Japan's improvements, hahaha!! There's some truth to that... (on the other hand, some parts of the US are good about offering gluten- and dairy-free alternatives, so that's an advantage for me.)

Ohh, good analogy to kabuki!! Another thing to learn more about some day... once it doesn't involve directly supporting the Amazon empire. But I believe! One day I'll have all the time in the world to pursue all these interests... I for sure don't have plans to dive into the comics that've been going and reinventing themselves for decades, but there are lots of smaller and independent publishers/artists out there these days, and I've encountered enough fun stories that way to know there must be so much more. But that's where I run into not knowing where to begin or go next with it all...

Thanks for the tip about the Noragami-inclusive box! I'm content with looking forward to what you get: I wouldn't know what to do with the rest of the stuff if I ordered one, and even for favourite series, I only really want items designed or drawn by the mangaka. It's hard to imagine getting anything through Loot Crate that could beat the treasures we brought back from Japan~
15th-May-2017 03:59 am (UTC)
So true about having time to pursue interests. It did occur to me that if there are friendly comic store employees, they could probably give you a good starting point, but we're back to time and priorities.

That's exactly why we never subscribed! It would be like, "Ooh, I love this! ...And I don't know what to do with this, this, this, or this." We do like the Noragami anime designs well enough (I remember always really admiring Yukine's eyes in the first opening sequence), but of course Adachitoka is the best. And yeah, that Noragami art gallery and all the loveliness that came with it... Aah, memories... Maybe when we're done rereading our Noragami reviews to assuage our pre-bedtime boredom, we'll go back and look at Facebook albums...
15th-May-2017 01:42 pm (UTC)
Okay, I'm going to respectfully disagree (sort of) with your stance on Mother's Day. If you are a mother, I don't think it's just all about the fact that you have a mother, I think it's also about the fact that you are a mother. My mother has been dead for 19 years, and unfortunately, she died right before Mother's Day. Now, while I remember her fondly, and while I am very thankful that she was such a good mother, there is an element of sadness in the fact that she is no longer here to celebrate Mother's Day with me (although I do say "Happy Mother's Day!" to her in my prayers). I am also lucky enough to have a daughter and daughter-in-law who think I'm a good enough mother to give me a call and say "Happy Mother's Day!", and who have planned that we will have a special tea sometime soon to celebrate, since they were busy this weekend. If I was a mother who had done her best, and if I was ignored by my children on Mother's Day, I think I would be very sad, and I think that would overshadow the fact that I was grateful for having my own good mother who is no longer here. And, if I had had an awful mother, I suppose I could feel grateful for the fact that she gave me life, but I might not be grateful for the way I was treated.

I want to make the point that I am not trying to start an argument. The point you make is a very good one, but I guess at this point in my life I focus more on the point that I am a mother rather than that I had a mother. And it may seem selfish, but yes, I do want a little appreciation, because I feel that being a mother was the most important thing that I did with my life, and that I neglected other things in the process that might have made my old(er) age more comfortable (not that I regret it, because I don't.)

I hope that this makes sense, and doesn't offend you at all. ♥

I think that I should also mention that I had a very Happy Mother's Day, with yummy doughnuts and a ride to the beach and a nice dinner and a hanging plant and the afore-mentioned telephone call, provided by my husband, the cats, and my daughter. And I have the lovely tea to look forward to, so I'm not complaining at all, just giving another point of view. :)


Edited at 2017-05-15 01:51 pm (UTC)
15th-May-2017 03:03 pm (UTC)
Oh, no, we're not offended! You brought up a very good point that I missed (although Athena did tell me to mention to any men who may be reading that if you know someone who is the mother of your own children, you better darn well acknowledge her, especially if her kids are too young to do it themselves). And we definitely agree that mothers who are doing their best deserve to be acknowledged. I can definitely see it being like a forgotten birthday, which we know from experience is a big bummer.

I guess mostly we're just tired of people being upset with themselves for not conforming with "society." Nobody who did anything great ever did it by doing what "society" expected of them! But that's a rant for another time. Also, I should add that we absolutely think motherhood is a worthy goal; it's just not one that everyone finds themself obtaining, and that's not necessarily bad, either.
15th-May-2017 07:38 pm (UTC)
I'm glad you're not offended! ♥

I totally agree with not being upset with yourself for not conforming with "society". I am the type of person who is more likely to be upset with myself if I DO conform with society. Hee!

And I also agree very strongly that motherhood is not for everyone, nor should it be. Everyone has to make up their own mind on that subject, and if one chooses not to have children, or if one is unable to have children for whatever reason, that is a very individual thing that should not be judged by anyone.

I don't usually get into such serious subjects, but I feel that I know you well enough that we can talk about such things even if we don't always completely agree on everything. ♥
16th-May-2017 04:35 am (UTC)
You gotta be careful about being deliberately nonconformist, though, because you could still end up letting society control your behavior (just in a backwards kind of way).

I do wish we lived in a world where people could talk about serious subjects without being afraid. I'm glad you're comfortable talking to us about it!
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